
On August 6th Dateline aired a show called
The Tangled Web. It is the story of a woman named Sandra (one of her many aliases), now known as the Black Widow. Why? Apparently she was the type of woman that would charm men of prestige and power, marry them and allegedly kill them. A friend of hers claimed that men were fascinated by her. She was gorgeous, and seemed to be kind and loving. In actuality, she was a woman who was deceptive, manipulative and knew how entrap men. When she was younger, she used her beauty and charm as a tool to control men. However, when she got older and her beauty somewhat faded, she began used the title of evangelist under the guise of ‘religion’ to con others out of money and other things.
To some degree, I think that all women have the innate ability to charm men. I believe that God has given us a ‘sphere of influence’ to the men in our lives. This is why Proverbs 31*, says that “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.” We have a mystery and air about us that men find attractive and are drawn to. We can either use this gift for good or evil. The Black Widow used her manipulative ways to harm men and con people out of money. I am sure we have all encountered women who seem to have the ‘gift’ of making men cater to their every whim and meet their every financial need. Sometimes you may even wonder, how does she do that?” (I know I have).
Women are special in that when we put our minds to it, we can really make a difference to those around us. Our ‘charms’ should not be used as a tools to get what we want, but rather as tools to enhance and strengthen others. God made us to be communicative and nurturing, but when that is misused simply to gain money or things, we are not in the proper order. As women, we hold so much influence among our peers, friends, and family. This influence should be used to make our corner of the world better.
If you are a wife or girlfriend, you have tremendous influence on the man in your life. If you are a mother, your children are looking to you for peace, safety and instruction. You set the tone of your home and relationships. Is it peaceful and harmonious or is it filled with angry words and bitterness, so that your family is afraid and unsure of your next move? As an employee, you also set the atmosphere of your workplace. Can people come to you and get the help they need or do people exhibit reluctance in approaching you? If you serve at church or in your community are you kind and respectful or do people not want you on their committee because they are afraid you will control the project? These are tough questions we have to ask ourselves as women. Are we using the natural gift of influence God gave us to help or hurt those around us?
Manipulation comes in many forms, but it begins with control. While you need to have some control, keep in mind that God has the ultimate control. Make sure that you go to Him when you are attempting to make a change or influence others. He will never lead you wrong when you are obedient to His voice. When you follow His way, you and the people in your life will experience joy, peace, love and happiness, simply because of your remarkable influence!
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Proverbs 31